G.B.
For a long time, psychology has limited the definition of love almost exclusively to the man-woman relationship. In a therapist patient relationship, patients are always assessed in relation to their first deep emotional relationship: that between them and their mother. This is a relationship that, according to many psychologists, conditions other sentimental relationships of all adult existence.
However, I think that the time has arrived for a paradigm shift. This is to conceive of love in psychology as freedom, and not as an attachment to anyone or anything. It means not seeing oneself as being attached to someone in order to love or be loved but, above all, being FREE to love someone.
What kind of love am I speaking about? It is a love that liberates because it does not make us feel “owned,” possessed or suffocated, by someone else. It is a kind of love which, the more it is shared, the more it multiplies. It is not “exclusive:” rather, it is an intelligent love that profoundly understands the soul’s inner depths. It is farsighted: it doesn’t only think of the here and now, but it is also genuinely interested in what is good for the other person. It is a love that is able to say NO and be firm in its decisions. At the same time, it is a creative love, able to innovate in situations, coming up with new ways of getting together, of entering into a relationship with others.















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